Stop being accommodating in relationships
Presumably, more "difficult" people would also be the most likely to steer clear of conflict but, once in conflict, they would use less constructive methods of resolution.
Using attachment style as a theoretical base, California State San Bernardino’s Robert Ricco and Anthony Sierra (2017) investigated the role of “argument beliefs” in understanding how the securely and insecurely attached navigate conflict.
Using self-report measures to examine attachment style, conflict tactics, and argument beliefs, the team obtained data from a sample of 449 students whose ages ranged from 18 to 56, with an average age of 24.
Most were in a relationship; 14 percent were married.
When you think about all of the people in your extended family, your circle of friends, or your workplace, you can probably identify quickly those to whom you feel closest.
You can probably also just as quickly identify the individuals with whom it is most difficult to get along.
Compared to people with the anxious attachment style, the avoidantly attached in the sample were indeed likely to regard conflict as devoid of benefit.